The Pressures Of Valentine’s Day

Dr. Eris,

Ever since I was a kid, I felt forced into Valentine’s Day, and forced into expressing love in a way that I’m not ready to. This occasion ruins the natural process of love. It’s a complete set up, which I think was created by the female of the species. I care about my current girlfriend; but with Valentines Day right around the corner, I’m put into this position once again. I don’t know how to express myself, or what to give her. I even have the thought of breaking up with her before the holiday and then getting back together with her afterwards. But, I know that this is not right. What should I do?

Dr. Eris Suggests,
It’s a good thing that you know that breaking up to avoid the pressures of Valentine’s Day isn’t a healthy thing to do. I suggest that you talk to your girlfriend and explain to her the pressure that you feel around Valentine’s Day. Give her the chance to express herself with you as well. As far as a gift, be creative – come up with something simple and appropriate. Or, come up with something together that feels comfortable for both of you. I suggest that you do not force yourself into saying anything that you do not want to say. Valentines day does not have to be such a pressure filled holiday nor does it have to become a bank account buster.
FYI – Although many women do get excited to celebrate Valentines Day with the person that they love, women did not create it. It was traditionally dedicated to two ancient male martyrs named Valentine.

 

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